tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8528686231765021097.post203497791421217042..comments2023-09-12T16:52:48.733+09:00Comments on Antisthenes' corollary*:: Ferber-FascistsἈντισθένηςhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06199983680204710885noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8528686231765021097.post-76251404033102029652011-10-22T13:41:29.324+09:002011-10-22T13:41:29.324+09:00Medea, you put your kids' needs first. You do...Medea, you put your kids' needs first. You don't need me to tell you that makes you the right kind of parent.<br /><br />Another thing about Ferberization: it's about mother getting back in the workforce, but it's gussied up in child-rearing theory to hide that. I'm not judging the women who choose to out of financial need, but for those fortunate not to have the financial need, you got to wonder about priorities: there is birth control. Don't accuse me of sexism, because in a two-parent household both are complicit, even if it is the gender the baby prefers (breat-feeding*, or not, mother) who will be going back to work, or remaining home.<br /><br />*Another minefield!Ἀντισθένηςhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06199983680204710885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8528686231765021097.post-5504085533153072602011-10-22T12:49:12.679+09:002011-10-22T12:49:12.679+09:00I agree- to a point. I really hate that western s...I agree- to a point. I really hate that western society thinks that there is only one right answer - sleeping in cribs all night. I hate that it's a competition between parents, and having a baby who sleeps by herself is seen as somehow winning the parent contest. I also hate that there are bodies of professionals (US pediatricians) who warn against co-sleeping. What they should warn against is beds, but that's another matter.<br /><br />However! No two kids are alike. My first needed to co-sleep, he and we were much better for it. My second, however, hated to co-sleep. She was much happier sleeping on her own futon in our room, away from us. She whimpered herself to sleep for about 3 minutes. Well, that worked for about a year and then we moved and she decided she wanted to co-sleep, but that's the way it is with kids- once you get used to something they changes it all up.<br /><br />I guess that's what I hate about the Ferber fascists- no room for change depending on the situation or the personality of the parents/kids.Perogyohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01066575445602451389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8528686231765021097.post-46495315213732094462011-10-22T11:01:25.525+09:002011-10-22T11:01:25.525+09:00Chris, that generation sure had more integrity, th...Chris, that generation sure had more integrity, though I think that was often taken advantage of by the people sending them to war. Back to this post, do you mean they co-slept, or not? If 'old-country', I'll bet they did.Ἀντισθένηςhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06199983680204710885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8528686231765021097.post-49623933910586936002011-10-22T10:12:40.523+09:002011-10-22T10:12:40.523+09:00My grandfathers generation built a new industriali...My grandfathers generation built a new industrialized nation ,retooled it for war and then rebuilt themselves and the countries they destroyed. Whatever their parents did seemed to work well.Chrishttp://badboyinjapan.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8528686231765021097.post-39972308006914163472011-10-22T09:44:43.559+09:002011-10-22T09:44:43.559+09:00Don't have an answer to your question. Am new...Don't have an answer to your question. Am new at this, and the kid's not even two. Wonder when the Japanese let go? As the wife is, that's going to be the deciding factor.Ἀντισθένηςhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06199983680204710885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8528686231765021097.post-55348289152199126052011-10-21T22:30:21.512+09:002011-10-21T22:30:21.512+09:00Though I've never given it much thought, I thi...Though I've never given it much thought, I think it'd be easier, but also beneficial for the baby, if the parents sleep <i>with</i> the baby. It just seems more "mammalian."<br /><br />Around what age do you think it's best for a child to be sleeping in his/her own room/bed, i.e., not with his/her parents?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00721341419832244521noreply@blogger.com