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Friday 23 May 2014

Tolerance as more INTJ, partially INTP?

I am going on about this, but I could have been saved decades of making an effort at getting along with the humans if I'd known sooner: I can't. 

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator
Dichotomies
Extraversion (E) (I) Introversion
Sensing (S) (N) Intuition
Thinking (T) (F) Feeling
Judging (J) (P) Perception

Extroverts are at best insincere, and at worst sociopaths.

Sensors cannot access intuition, or abstract thought much at all, so are like watching someone use manual for the first time, every time.

Feelers prefer it to thinking, because they can't.  Please.  I can feel; however, an adult reserves emotions for entertainment.


So, INTJ/P as I am, not only are 94.6% of people a trial to me, but my I, N and T are each the minority case!  Well that explains a lot.

As for my poor 'luck with the ladies' in my youth: how can they endure the feels that much (below)?  Hell, I battened down my emotions, because I dislike enduring my own (more like, coping mechanism to an emotionally abusive, sometimes physically abusive, narcissistic father, and total refusal to be like him at all).  Is the female weighting of E over T by disposition, inclination, or socialization?  From where I sit, more emotion is more reason to control it better.  I've long thought women are socialized to be emotive because it doesn't end up in a hospital or police line-up, unlike men.  Not a few times teachers in staff rooms have wished girls bitching at each other for a few years would get it over with in a dust-up, like boys.

TOTAL ISTJ
11-14%
ISFJ
9-14%
INFJ
1-3%
INTJ
2-4%
E
45-53%

S
66-74%

T
40-50%

J
54-60%
I
47-55%

N
26-34%

F
50-60%

P
40-46%
ISTP
4-6%
ISFP
5-9%
INFP
4-5%
INTP
3-5%
ESTP
4-5%
ESFP
4-9%
ENFP
6-8%
ENTP
2-5%
ESTJ
8-12%
ESFJ
9-13%
ENFJ
2-5%
ENTJ
2-5%
FEMALES ISTJ
7-10%
ISFJ
15-20%
INFJ
2-4%
INTJ
1-3%
E
45-55%

S
70-75%


T
24-35%

J
55-60%
I
45-55%

N
25-30%

F
65-76%


P
40-45%
ISTP
2-3%
ISFP
6-10%
INFP
4-7%
INTP
1-3%
ESTP
2-4%
ESFP
7-10%
ENFP
8-10%
ENTP
2-4%
ESTJ
6-8%
ESFJ
12-17%
ENFJ
3-6%
ENTJ
1-4%
MALES ISTJ
14-19%
ISFJ
6-8%
INFJ
1-2%
INTJ
2-6%
E
45-50%

S
65-72%

T
55-67%

J
52-58%
I
50-55%

N
28-35%

F
33-45%


P
42-48%
ISTP
6-9%
ISFP
4-8%
INFP
3-5%
INTP
4-7%
ESTP
5-6%
ESFP
3-7%
ENFP
5-7%
ENTP
3-7%
ESTJ
10-12%
ESFJ
5-8%
ENFJ
1-3%
ENTJ
3-6%

Lesson to me is to stop making an effort.  Not going to go out of my way to be a prick, nor refuse compatible relations, but since 19/20 are incompatible I am best served if my default with anyone I don't know is to stand off; on the other hand, I keep sifting through many people because I need a large sample size to fish that 5% from.  My conundrum:

3 comments:

  1. I wonder how many of those 'emotive' females are faking it? I know i do sometimes, in work situations etc, to avoid dealing with shit. It's much easier to make sympathetic noises than to have people trying to dig around in your life.

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    1. I can imagine. Whatever amount is innate; much is socialized. Emotionally-incontinent I call it. My experience with women teachers is only to bother with those some combination of: immigrant, have brothers, have sons, lesbian.

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  2. I am constantly faking my emotions. At least I know.

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